Thanksgiving Treat Revisited (by AJ)

Below is the folllow-up post from AJ on her Thanksgving day.  Enjoy!

A rundown on how my special Thanksgiving went over with my husband….

I wanted to completely surprise my husband Thanksgiving morning with his little treat, so I followed our usual somewhat protracted nightly protocol without any deviation- that evening before our Thanksgiving. Right before bed time (mine) I had him strip down to just his panties. I had him retrieve my worn panties off the floor by the bed where I had dropped them earlier before taking my nightly bath (hot bubble bath drawn by my loving husband). Following our little ritual, I then instructed him to “worship” and he then held my used panties buried into his face and repeatedly and deeply inhaled my musky odor from those dirty panties. He then handed my panties back to me, and I instructed him with the command “open” and I then pushed those panties deep inside his waiting little mouth. With him appropriately gagged with my essence, I told him to “strip and present” he followed this command by removing everything down to and including his own panties which he presented to me with outstretched hands. As usual, I inspected those very minutely and made an exaggerated production of discovering all of his dried (and not so dried) precum stains on those worn panties. I always follow up by verbally telling him what a good little girl he has been for me that day by retaining his main load for me and just dribbling his precum for me. I usually will heft his sack in my hands and massage his balls briefly as I remark about his retention and leaking and how much I appreciate him for doing that for me.  I always remark on how much precum there is present in his panties, which almost without fail - there is. I then hand him the panties which I have preselected for his wear for the following day and he then folds those neatly and places those on his dressing chair for putting on in the morning when he gets up. To continue my deception, I did not put out his special Thanksgiving panties with their telltale tease openings, but instead I had handed him one of his “usual” pairs. I then handed him back his worn panties slapped his butt firmly and sent him on his way downstairs with both our dirty panties (mine still in his mouth) to complete his nightly chores while I continued to put myself to bed.

In the evenings after my bath and while I continue to watch some TV in bed, he goes downstairs to complete his chores – buck naked with one pair of panties in his mouth and the other in his hand. He begins by getting the last load of regular laundry into the washer and getting that going. He then hand washes both of our panties in the laundry sink and sets those to dry on the clothes line in the laundry room. He then does the dinner dishes (old school by hand washing – no dishwasher) followed by a complete cleaning and wipe down of all of the counters in the kitchen. He then gets down on his hands and knees and washes the entire kitchen floor for me using a rag and bucket of water. I like the ritual of making him do these things in the fashion which his great grandmother might have done them in the old days. This reinforces his domestic role in our FLR relationship. He then tidies up the living room and then lightly cleans both the upstairs and downstairs bathrooms up (he does this every day so they remain pretty clean). During this time the laundry finishes washing on its quick wash setting and he dries those clothes and folds them and then puts everything away before coming to bed himself. By the time he is finally done, I am usually a bit more than sleepy but still patiently waiting for my final bedtime relaxer from him. He comes upstairs at the completion of his chores and takes a very quick freshen up shower before making his way between my waiting and spread legs in the bed. After the appropriate amount of oral devotion dictated my me, I push him lightly away, close my legs and have him turn off the bedroom lights. I go to bed with a well satiated pussy and he goes to bed with a very wet and muskily scented mouth and face. In anticipation of this special Thanksgiving morning, I woke early, and proceeded to quietly swap out his  regular next day panties with his new specially sewn pair that I had made for him.

When he wakes in the morning his first job is to fetch me a nice hot cup of English Breakfast tea. He then gets dressed and ready for work beginning with his panties and then out the door he goes. On the weekends and other work holidays, after the tea his next order of business is to make me some breakfast. Usually it’s nothing too fancy just a bowl of oatmeal or something simple like that. As he began to get dressed, I saw his jaw drop as he began to pull on his panties and when he noticed that there was something very off and different with the pair he was putting on. I seductively instructed him to remain perfectly quiet and to bring those to me by the bed. He was to remain quiet until I had given him permission to speak. I pulled his chastity keys out from beneath my pillow where I had them waiting for this special moment. I dangled those for a time in front of his lit up face (I think he may have been thinking an orgasm was coming?) before teasingly and slowly unlocking his device and working the end of the chastity cage tube off of his PA piercing which holds it in place when its locked. I then slipped the ball trap of his sack and put all of his assembly on the nightstand. I then teasingly slipped on his special panties for him.  When I had them pulled completely up, I reached through his special glory hole opening in the front and pulled his entire package (cock and balls) through the opening until it was dangling nicely outside of his panties. I then extracted his special butt plug out from under my pillow and inserted it into his mouth. After face fucking him for a few minutes with the plug, I then had him turn around and bend at the waist. I gently but firmly inserted it into his bottom through the rear opening in the panties. By the time I did all of that, his cock was very firmly swollen and beginning to weep already. I looked into his eyes briefly and then inserted his cock into my mouth and slowly teased it with my just my teeth until he was pretty close to exploding. I cautioned him between mouthfuls that cuming was expressly forbidden. I also instructed him that he was also forbidden to touch his own cock what so ever during the entire day. He could look but no touch.  If he had to pee, he had to call me to hold it for him on the toilet (he has to sit – my house and I make the rules). Once he is done peeing, I would do the honors of giving it the obligatory shake.  

After briefing him on those no touch rules, I then continued to fill him in on my plans for the entire day and that he was being treated to this special one-off day of full and frequent unhindered erections. I again instructed him that while erections were to be encouraged during the entire day, that cuming was most definitely forbidden to him. I then gave him permission to speak and to ask any questions and from there we just then continued about the holiday day as “normal”, with the exception being that he was only to be dressed in those panties, and those panties alone,  all day long and that he was to remain poking through his special glory hole for the entire day for my visual pleasure. As the day wound through, I was careful to monitor the state of his freed open air cock and every time I noticed that it was beginning to significantly droop, I would do something to get him fully aroused again. Sometimes I would just pull his plug out, re-lube it, and fuck him briefly with it. Other times I would briefly re-suck or bite on the tip of his cock. Other times I would tap or swat his sack with my hand or foot. Other times I would jerk his cock very lightly with my hand or with a soft piece of satiny cloth. Yet other times I would seductively rub my own pantied pussy up against his cock. I would also frequently caress his firm but smooth pantied backside. When I nibble his ear, that usually also firms his cock up nicely. At one point, still early in the day, I just decided on a whim to paint his toenails and fingernails a bright sexy shade of red. I also then threw on some lip stick for him and called him my little whore slut. He was deeply embarrassed and worried to be dressed this way (what if someone stopped over) but I noticed his seepage and the overall firmness of his erections pick up nicely once I had done this to him J  I think you all get the picture. I kept him mercilessly excited all day long. Even as he ate, I would jingle his package across the table with my foot.  He was dripping precum like a faucet all day long. As soon as I would see a sizable bead of precum appear on the head of his cock I would swipe it up onto my finger and push it into his mouth. By the time the evening came around my poor old husband was so overly excited and on the worried edge of getting punished for an unauthorized cum that he was almost begging me to be put him back into chastity to put him out of “his misery”. His cock was so raw and sensitive from all of the extended teasing and denial. I never saw so much precum come out of him as I did this particular day – and I bet he never ate so much precum as he did on Thanksgiving as well J

I finished the evening by letting him remain unlocked as he dutifully ate my pussy and ass. I ground my front and back holes into his face while I faced his cock while straddling his head and I sharply slapped his cock repeatedly with my open hand. Finally, when I couldn’t take his oral attention any longer, I got off of him and had him get up and pull his special panties off and remove his butt plug. I then relocked his poor tired swollen worn out cock with his chastity device. I went straight to bed - I was exhausted. It was fun keeping him aroused and horny all day long, but it was also quite a bit of work!  He then went downstairs to clear up all of the Thanksgiving mess like a good husband.

I’m not sure if erection day was heaven or hell for him but I‘m sure he will remember it for a good while.

-AJ

Here is a no-brainier about a Femdom Wife led marriage (by Dorinda)

Below is a post from Dorinda, from her blog "A Femdom Wife's Life."  Thanks Dorinda for sharing this. For those interested in reading more from her blog, I have added it to the reading list.  

-Mz Kaylee

Besides many other benefits like financial security, no arguments, a partner that does 100 percent of the joint choirs and duties, etc. is the sex.

Since my last post I have received a mountain of e-mail regarding oral sex, the receiving of it as a woman.

I know my sex drive has tripled and maybe even more then that since taking control of my husband.

I believe it’s because as a normal woman your husband wants sex, you think OK, I love him so no problem. He tries if you’re lucky, to get you horny enough to get wet, then when he is through you may not have had your relief, he is done and unless you get out your vibrator you don’t get your needs met. I know this is a simplified version but very true to the point for many Women.

Now as a FemDom wife, You tell him you are ready for his service, he provides it for you, no worries if your clean or dirty down there, and you get all your needs met. Because you can relax and take your time knowing when you are finished with him you’re done, no worrying about his needs.

I know these two examples are true because of 24 e-mails the last 2 days on the topic as well as my own personal experience.

Also, many men that have commented and/or e-mailed me have talked about being caged or want to be so their Wife can control their releases. These men are for sure in it knowing no way do they orgasm without Wife’s permission, She has the key.

My husband is not caged but can and does follow my exact orders and knows there is no release after the service unless I say so. Power for me and it keeps him interested hoping for that male driven release he craves so much..

Anyway, my desires for sex and orgasm’s have increased because Its all for my pleasure, no work from me, no let downs. So now if I am even a little horny I have him take care of me, It takes a little longer then but a good sub will provide what it takes for you to orgasm one or in my case many times.

One last thing, I have concluded that many marriages in my age group are set up like this D/s model for the Wife. I think we learn together over time and the husband accepts his place under you much easier than a young man can.

The Sex Life of a Denied Man/Man in Chastity

In the last post AJ shared that she keeps her husband in chastity 24/7 and that she does things regularly to keep it from getting boring from him. Below is a quote from one of her comments that is excellent advice:

"You can't just throw a man into chastity and then seemingly completely forget about the dilemma that this man and your penis are incurring for you as result of that lock up."

I do not keep my husband in chastity but I do practice orgasm control with him and the same advice applies to my situation. When a man is in chastity or is being denied orgasm over a prolonged period of time, it affects his emotions on a daily basis. It's widely known that men have many sexual thoughts and experience some sort of arousal on a daily basis. Combine that with chastity or denial and you've got quite an emotional struggle going on in his mind (and his pants 😃). It is important that us Leaders recognize this and do things to stay engaged with that emotion.

Early in our FLR, my husband shared with me that he enjoys when I require him to wear panties and all the "girl" teasing that I often do that goes along with it, but simply wearing panties on his own was no desire of his. In other words, absent my involvement and attention, there would be no desire or enjoyment in wearing panties. This was an important learning point for me and the same message that AJ is conveying with chastity. Submissive men crave our attention, our authority, and our control over them. This is why they agree to be put in chastity and agree to orgasm control.The experience of having a women have reign over their sex in order to manipulate them (the man) and control them is the mind fuck the men desire.  

The irony here is that when done right, a locked up/denied man is motivated to obey and please his wife. Even more irony is that men in these situations usually have a much more exciting sex life than a man in a traditional marriage, especially after many years of marriage. We have been married for 20+ years and our sex life couldn't be better. After incorporating orgasm control into our marriage, I am much more in tune with my husband's sex drive and arousal. Our "Sex life" has become much more than the physical act of intercourse. There is a lot of mental stimulation at play now. I can get his arousal flowing with just a few words or even the right look and body language. He may only get a few orgasms a year, but in between there is lots of cock teasing and bringing him to the edge of orgasm over and over again. It goes beyond the bedroom -a little rub here and there throughout the day does wonders. Then there's the privilege of pleasuring me. His tongue gets a good workout; I guarantee you it is much more than he would experience if we were still in a traditional marriage.  His arousal is at a peak when he is done satisfying me, which is proof that he loves it. 

It is imperative that you do not forget about your man's predicament or take it for granted. It is easy to do when you are busy.  You can choose not to give him attention because of other things going on.  However, know that when he is busy he has no choice but to live with his situation and when there is nothing reciprocal coming from you, it can be depressing and discouraging for him, which ultimately creates a bad situation for you. It only takes a few minutes to give a little tease or some attention. Showing attention is not all about the sex either. Other things to get his attention include: a firm order to do something, calling him slave or his pet name, telling him "good boy", noticing that he did something right, or noticing that he did not do something to your expectations. Those knee deep into orgasm control know exactly what I am talking about. For those of you new to orgasm control or FLR, you may be dismissing the need for attention. Trust me, it works. An aroused man under your control is like a little kid and desires to hear "good boy" from you and even desires to be corrected by you. These things motivate him to do please you. I never fully understood it until I tried it myself. 

All these things are simple to do and only take a few minutes, or even seconds out of your day but have a big impact on him. They do not replace all the other components of a successful FLR, but they are the filler in between to keep him motivated to serving and obeying you and being an excellent submissive husband. Try to focus on incorporating a few of these things during each week. If you make a concerted effort to do this for a few weeks, it will soon become a natural part of your lifestyle and you will be motivating him without even thinking about it.

In Conclusion.....If you hear of a man in chastity or being denied orgasm, do not feel sorry for him. Instead be happy for him and know that he is a lucky man. Be happy for his wife and know that she is in charge and a true Goddess to her husband. If you should decide to give it a try yourself (I highly recommend it), lock him up but do not throw away the key.  

-Kaylee

P.s. I am looking for both men and women to submit guest posts.  If you would like to submit a post or run an idea by me, e-mail to MzKaylee101@gmail.com.

Thanksgiving Treat (by AJ)

Hats off to AJ for being the first to come forward and submit a post.  Below is her post. Thanks AJ!  -Mz Kaylee

I've decided that I will give my husband a very special treat this coming Thanksgiving. He works hard for me inside and outside of the home every day and has become truly centered on providing me with unselfish pleasure each and every day – without expecting any sort of payback in return.  I thought I would plan and do something extra special and nice for him as an “I appreciate you and love you” gift this Thanksgiving in return for all of his generosity and devotion.

I keep my husband in chastity 24x7. After years of trial and error and experimentation with cheaper devices, I finally bought him a high end metal cage which works in conjunction with his PA piercing to keep him extremely secure and chaste for me. After 12 years of marriage, with the last 4 being flr ones, I am very in tune with his body, and I would know immediately if he somehow cheated on his flr vows and somehow managed to sneak off an orgasm without my express permission – as he is trained to do. When this Thanksgiving rolls around he will have gone 47 days since his last orgasm – that’s not a guess or wish on my part, it’s an absolute confidence on my part that this is the case. That’s not a real lot of chastity time for him by our current standards. He typically goes around 4 months or more before I allow him an orgasm. That said, I still know it’s a tremendous sacrifice and still very hard for him, despite the repetition, to go without orgasm for any period of time. Like any man, he enjoys to orgasm, and given his unhindered ways, to orgasm as frequently as possible. It’s just that in our relationship he knows and I know that the frequency that’s works for us is 4 times a year or less, so that’s what we do. But to summarize, it’s still very hard for him never the less to live by my rules on this subject, but he does so out of respect for me and our special relationship. A “small” side effect of his well fitted cage and his long term chastity is that in addition to his infrequent orgasms, he also is unable to become fully erect while he is in his chastity mode. Other than our weekly Sunday cleanings where I allow him briefly to exit chastity for hygiene and shaving (completely supervised) his cock is always in pretty tight and rigid confinement. His cock can only stiffen a pretty small amount before it hits the hard limits of his cage and causes him pretty significant discomfort as continues to try to engorge.  As result he gets very few full erections in addition to his very limited number of orgasms each year. Since an orgasm so soon after his last orgasm is very much out of the question, I thought I would let him enjoy something which at this point must also be a genuine treat for him – a full day of being totally unconfined from his cage and where he is therefore 100% free to become as erect as much as his body desires and wishes. So that’s my plan for him this Thanksgiving. He will get to free range with his erections from the time we wake up on Thanksgiving to the time we go to bed at the end of the day.

What’s bringing this all about this year is through a wide range of happen chance in both of our small families; we are spending this particular thanksgiving at home, alone, with no other relatives or any other sort of Thanksgiving travel involved. So it’s very much just the 2 of us 100% of the time this thanksgiving at our very own home. He will be under my controlled scrutiny the entire day. 

My mom and my grandmother were very good sewers. They enjoyed working on craft projects all of the time. Some of their skills were somehow passed down to little Tom boy me, so I also happen to be decent with the needle and thread as well as passingly  good with a sewing machine (who would have ever thought  it ).  I have gone out and purchased him a nice new pair of very smooth and silky sexy panties. Using my 4-H skills In ways that I bet my den mothers never envisioned, I went ahead and have altered them slightly to meet my needs for this Thanksgiving. I created a hemmed elastic lined “glory hole” opening at the front of those panties for him to stick his cock and balls through, and I likewise created a similar opening which will line up with his pretty tight little rosebud in the rear. So thanksgiving he will be balls and cock outside of his panties all day on complete open air display for me all day long. As for his rear entrance, I have a somewhat larger but cute jeweled butt plug that will also reside there the entire day.  Not an orgasm to be sure, but I think he will still appreciate the special and completely unexpected treat of being allowed to become erect as much as he desires throughout the day. It’s been at least a couple of years since he last experienced that selfish but very manly pleasure of stiffening unimpeded whenever he feels like it. My goal thanksgiving is to give him plenty of reason to become nice and thick for me all day long. I also fully expect him to be drizzling a steady little trail of precum for me throughout the day - which will serve him well as treats throughout the day. At the end of the day, after having him do a very nice cleanout for me, I plan on giving his stretched out little butt a special work out as well. Since I like my little girl all smooth all over when I make love to her, I will treat my husband to a very rare personalized front and back shave that evening before we commence with the after dinner festivities.

Happy Thanksgiving Hubby and thanks for all that you do for me throughout the entire year so unselfishly and with so much love and true devotion.

-AJ

Punsishment and Other Discussion Topics

Thank you all who contributed to the punishment discussion. If you are not reader of the Femdom101 blog, please go read it. Kathy continued the discussion via a posts on her blog and there are also some great comments from her readers on the topic on her blog. It is fantastic to hear different opinions and experiences from others and it is great to see readers asking questions on the topic. If you have a question, chances are that many others have the same question so please do not hesitate to ask the question. I encourage others to respond to questions as well. I certainly have no issue giving my advice and thoughts but by no means am I the final authority on what is right and what is not (except with my husband 😊).

There are many different ways to run your Female Led Relationship and you have to do what works best for you. My advice to you is read as much as possible about FLRs and then implement the things that resonate with you. I also recommend you step outside of your comfort zone every once in awhile and try something that you would not normally do. Ofen times the strangest things turn into something fun and exciting or something very effective for your FLR. Prior to my FLR, I would have never imagined that I'd be punishing my husband and having him wear punishment panties as part of the punishment. If you try something and it just does not work, then laugh about it and move on. I've had a few of those experiences that led to a lot of laughter.

Someone recently commented that they wanted more posts. I appreciate the encouragement. The reality is that I work full-time and do a lot of volunteer work with my kids school and sports and do not have a lot of time for writing. It takes quite a bit of time for me to write a post and also to respond to comments. I really enjoy it and will continue posting when I can. I would love to see some of you contribute. I named my blog Femdom Think Tank because I wanted this blog to be about people sharing ideas, experiences, and opinions on Female Domination and FLR. My vision was to have others contribute to the blog regularly through guest posts.  If you look through past posts, there are a few others who have posted but it has not been frequent. It would be great to have others post on a regular basis.

Please consider writing a post for this blog. You can pick a FLR/Femdom topic to write about, share an experience, post a follow-up to another post or comment, or write about an article that you read and liked or disagreed with. Several of you contribute to comments regularly and I know you have it in you to write a meaningful post. I ask that you be respectful of others in your writing and no fantasy fodder. For those in a FLR, it would be great to hear about what works for you and why or what are challenges you are facing. Maybe you had an experience that was mind blowing and want to share it and encourage others to try it. One of the blogs on my reading list is the "I'm Her's" blog, which is written by a submissive male. In some of his posts he expresses the frustrations that he is experiencing as a submissive. I believe many of the frustrations expressed are common among submissive men. What I love about these posts is it gives honest insight into the emotions submissive men feel and I welcome any of the male readers to write on this topic and be open to feedback from readers. I do not want a bitch session. If you read the I'm Her's posts, he is very thoughtful and respectful in how he expresses his thoughts.

If you want to contribute a post, please send it to me at mzkaylee101@gmail.com.  It would be great to have a few guest posts each month.  The goal here is for us all to share experiences, thoughts, frustrations, successes, and opinions so that we can learn and help each other grow in our FLRs and encourage others to give FLR a try.

Hope to hear from many of you,

Mz Kaylee.