Engaging in my husband's submissive fantasies on occasion and focusing on his fetishes is one way that I feed his craving. If you are new to Wife Led Marriage (WLM) or femdom, fantasy play is a great way to dip your feet into this new wonderful world and start to experiment with your husband's submission and your dominance over him. When a couple is embarking on a WLM, there is often a large imbalance between the husband's craving for being controlled and the amount of time the wife exerts control over him. His craving is much bigger and more intense than what she can give. A large part of this is usually attributed to her not understanding what to do or not being comfortable in the dominant role. Fantasy play is a great way to start bridging that gap.
In the beginning of my WLM, we planned monthly fantasy days. They helped me get comfortable in the dominant role and helped me understand his submission. There was very little domination that occurred in between fantasy days. I was just not prepared to engage fully in the lifestyle at that time. However, over time, as I became more comfortable and confident with being dominant and as I learned more about the dynamics of his submission, I began to exert control over him outside of the fantasy days and I began to incorporate rules and expectations for him into our daily life. It was a slow and gradual change but eventually (after many years) the monthly fantasy days faded away because we had transitioned into a WLM lifestyle. For couples new to the lifestyle or who are struggling to keep it going, I recommend this approach. Guys, for you, this approach can be a compromise if your wife is not engaging in the lifestyle. This is one of those times when you need to adjust your expectations and accept that domination will occur only during the fantasy times and really enjoy and savor those moments and not pester her about wanting more.
Although monthly fantasy days have faded away in my WLM, we still engage in fantasy days. They are just less frequent. Fantasy play still has a place in a mature WLM. Even a WLM can grow mundane over time. Fantasy days are a way to spice things up. A WLM is not meant to be all serious. Fantasy and fun are great ingredients for any marriage. I find that when I let loose and play into his fantasies and fetishes, it strengthens his submission to me and brings us closer together as a couple. When you engage in his wildest fantasies, he often experiences new levels of pleasure and thrills. If you have a strong intimate bond with your partner, like my husband and I do, it is easy to trust each other and completely let go of your inhibitions. The result is deeply fulfilling and intimate fantasy play that brings you closer together. It is almost spiritual. I have heard others in a WLM, including some of you who read my blog, describe the same type of closeness after experiencing and intense fantasy or domination session.
It is very easy to engage in a fantasy day. I know my husband well so figuring out what to do is not hard. For me the hard part is getting into the right mood. It is easy to get caught up in day-to-day life and not take time out for fantasy fun. That is why it is good to plan a few of these each year. Once I focus on it, I get in the mood quickly and it is fun and exciting for me too! There are also times when fantasy play is spontaneous. If the mood strikes you at anytime, go for it!
If you are in a newer relationship or just starting the journey of WLM, just ask your husband about his fantasies. A word of advice is to continually ask about his fantasies over time. Often times men are embarrassed about some of their fantasies and therefore do not disclose all of them to you initially. As your relationship grows and your husband gets more comfortable expressing his fantasies to you, he will open up more. Also, over time a man's fantasies may change so it's good to revisit fantasies. Another technique for drawing out his fantasies is to ask about them when he is horny. A horny man will open up more about his sexual desires. I find it very amusing and fun to tease my husband's cock while I ask about his fantasies. Keep probing deeper and deeper the more he talks and you will learn a lot. You can also ask leading questions such as, "do you enjoy being tied up," or "would you let me spank you?" I've discovered that the more horny my husband is and the longer he is kept in a horny state, the more bizarre his confessions become. lol! I don't get freaked out over it. Men do not think straight once their hormones run wild.
Once you know his fantasies, it is up to you to choose which ones to engage in. You have no obligation to engage in any particular fantasy of his. One of my husband's top fantasies is a three-some where he is submissive to myself and another women. That's not going to happen. There are many other that I will not do. Some of the things that I will do which he loves include putting on fetish wear, turning into strict dominatrix, spanking, inspecting his body and queening him. I've also put a collar and leash on him and led him around the house like my pet. It really is fun when you get into it! Often time I will play into his feminization desires by taking him shopping for panties, making him dress in stockings, or planning a "girls night out" with just him and I, Some of these things I may do on a typical day and not as part of a fantasy. What makes fantasy days different is that it is a day where I focus solely on his fantasy or fetish and take it to a more extreme level. It is pure fantasy and fun and not meant to be real.
Fantasy days are a lot of fun for both of us. In fact, I usually turn them into fantasy weekends and sometimes I extend some of the fantasy even longer. For example, earlier in our WLM, the only time I had Thomas wear panties was when we did fantasy play. Sometimes when the fantasy was over, I would tell Thomas that he still had to wear panties for the next week. And to think, now he wears panties 24/7! That's a good example of how our fantasy play transitioned into real life.
I enjoy doing fantasy days for my husband and I also benefit from them. As I wrote above, we bond during fantasy days. I also notice a stronger sense of loyalty and devotion to me in the weeks following a fantasy day. I can tell that he is happy grateful that I entertain his fantasies every now and then, I guess it's one way to ensure I remain the girl of his dreams :).
-Mz Kaylee
Saturday, August 24, 2019
Wednesday, August 7, 2019
Submissive Craving - Part 2
In part 1 of this post, I wrote about how strong the submissive craving is in men. The many comments logged in part 1 validates that what I wrote about is real. Thanks to those of you who contributed and provided input. I enjoyed seeing that there was also discussions within the comments among a few of you. The discussion and sharing of experiences is helpful for all of us to learn and be encouraged in our WLM journey. If you have not read the comments in part 1 or contributed to the discussion, I encourage you to do so.
What I learned from your comments is that the craving for many of you is strong, occurring daily and even multiple times in a day. This is believable to me because it is no secret that men often fantasize or think about sex/woman multiple times a day. There were a few comments on how the desire to submit started at a very early age and that it is wired into your thinking. I have heard this before from men and my husband has also confessed that he had fantasies and desires of being dominated even before puberty. Many of you talked about feeling more balanced in your life and focused on your wife when you are under her control. It is a wonderful benefit of the WLM lifestyle.
A few of you noted that this craving is not something that you can repress. I believe you and I sense that it takes a lot of self-control to keep it from becoming obsessive. It is important for women to understand this. It is not healthy for men to repress these feelings and it is destructive for the relationship if the husband is struggling internally with these feelings and not able to open up to his wife about them.
On the flip side, submissive men need to manage this craving. If you can not manage it then it becomes destructive. Guys, sometimes you need to just live in the moment and appreciate what your wife is giving you. I often see a guy post a sob story about how his wife does not dominate him but then in subsequent posts or if you read historical posts you find out that he's locked in chastity and gets spanked and so on. He does not appreciate that his wife really is dominating him and that there are thousands of guys who dream of being in his situation. The issue is that the craving is so much that submissive guys always wants more and more and when that happens, you can never be happy. I am speaking in generalizations of course. I know not all of you think that way but I am sure that many of you can relate. Those of you who learn to control it, find happiness and fulfillment and those who can't will never be satisfied.
Guys, you also need to understand that most women do not crave domination in the same way that you crave submission. Some do and if you find a woman that does, then you've hit the submissive lottery. I am not one of those women. While I have embraced his submission and enjoy it, at times I find my husband's deep submissive desires to be annoying and trust me there are lots of things he wants me to do that I will not. Over the years he has learned to manage his craving and appreciate what he has instead of always wanting more. He has learned to change his expectations for the things he knows I will not do. It does not mean he does not fantasize about them or does not still have hope that one day things could change. Even I have learned to never say "never". There are things I do today that I would never have imagined doing several years ago. However, my husband has learned to not have high hopes about those things happening in the near future (at least I think he has :). By resetting your expectations, you can enjoy and savor the things that are happening now and find pleasure in them.
Of course I know the craving is not easy to control and as I wrote earlier, it is not good to completely repress it. The more the husband and wife can embrace it together at a healthy and sustainable level, the happier and more fulfilling the relationship will become. Even in a mature WLM, where dominance and submission has become a natural way of life, the craving for more still surfaces. Just like a traditional marriage, over time the spice in the relationship can fade away. In my last post I mentioned three things that I often do to keep that from happening: Fantasy Days, Boot Camp Training, and Power Trips. I will write about those in my next post. Until then, please continue to share your thoughts and experiences on the topic.
-Mz Kaylee.
A few of you noted that this craving is not something that you can repress. I believe you and I sense that it takes a lot of self-control to keep it from becoming obsessive. It is important for women to understand this. It is not healthy for men to repress these feelings and it is destructive for the relationship if the husband is struggling internally with these feelings and not able to open up to his wife about them.
On the flip side, submissive men need to manage this craving. If you can not manage it then it becomes destructive. Guys, sometimes you need to just live in the moment and appreciate what your wife is giving you. I often see a guy post a sob story about how his wife does not dominate him but then in subsequent posts or if you read historical posts you find out that he's locked in chastity and gets spanked and so on. He does not appreciate that his wife really is dominating him and that there are thousands of guys who dream of being in his situation. The issue is that the craving is so much that submissive guys always wants more and more and when that happens, you can never be happy. I am speaking in generalizations of course. I know not all of you think that way but I am sure that many of you can relate. Those of you who learn to control it, find happiness and fulfillment and those who can't will never be satisfied.
Guys, you also need to understand that most women do not crave domination in the same way that you crave submission. Some do and if you find a woman that does, then you've hit the submissive lottery. I am not one of those women. While I have embraced his submission and enjoy it, at times I find my husband's deep submissive desires to be annoying and trust me there are lots of things he wants me to do that I will not. Over the years he has learned to manage his craving and appreciate what he has instead of always wanting more. He has learned to change his expectations for the things he knows I will not do. It does not mean he does not fantasize about them or does not still have hope that one day things could change. Even I have learned to never say "never". There are things I do today that I would never have imagined doing several years ago. However, my husband has learned to not have high hopes about those things happening in the near future (at least I think he has :). By resetting your expectations, you can enjoy and savor the things that are happening now and find pleasure in them.
Of course I know the craving is not easy to control and as I wrote earlier, it is not good to completely repress it. The more the husband and wife can embrace it together at a healthy and sustainable level, the happier and more fulfilling the relationship will become. Even in a mature WLM, where dominance and submission has become a natural way of life, the craving for more still surfaces. Just like a traditional marriage, over time the spice in the relationship can fade away. In my last post I mentioned three things that I often do to keep that from happening: Fantasy Days, Boot Camp Training, and Power Trips. I will write about those in my next post. Until then, please continue to share your thoughts and experiences on the topic.
-Mz Kaylee.
Monday, July 22, 2019
1 Million Views!
I just noticed that my blog reached 1million+ views. In today's world that's probably not much but it's an exciting milestone for me. Thank you all for reading my posts and for the great comments and discussions!!
-Kaylee
Sunday, July 21, 2019
The Submissive Craving
Submissive men crave to be dominated and controlled by a woman. It is not just a want or desire, it is a deep craving. If you are a male submissive you know what I am talking about. For women who are new to Wife Led Marriage, it may not be so easy to comprehend the submissive craving. Have you ever craved something bad? Perhaps it's that craving for a coffee or chocolate and sweets. I often get the chocolate craving. Once it's starts, I can't stop thinking about it. If there is no chocolate in the house, it is torture. As I do my usual business throughout the day, the craving will stick with me. I may forget about it when I get busy but thoughts of chocolate always come back until I get my hands on some chocolate. Have you ever craved something so much that you find yourself imagining it and tasting it in your mouth? I have! No doubt if I am craving chocolate I will make a trip to the store to get some (or make hubby get it). And when I finally get it...oohhh....it tastes so good and makes me feel so good...food orgasm!
I'm sure most of you can relate to the experience I described above. That is similar to what submissive men experience with the need to be dominated and controlled and the desire to feel submissive or owned. The challenge with men is that their submissive craving is frequent. Usually with a craving, once you get what you want, the craving dissipates and it may be a long time before that craving comes back. However, the submissive craving does just the opposite. The more submission is experienced, the more he begins to crave it. It can become an addiction. When you add in the constant arousal experienced by men who are denied orgasm over prolonged periods of time, the craving becomes even stronger.
The submissive craving is a constant desire to feel controlled and to be dominated. This includes desires such as being punished, spanked, or reprimanded; being talked to in a authoratative manner; being forced to do tasks, submissive or humiliating things; kneeling before his wife; worshipping his wife's body, being teased and denied orgasm; and kissing her feet. Early in my WLM I thought that a night of kinky or fantasy fun would satisfy my husbands submissive desires for awhile but I soon learned I was wrong. It would only be a week or two later that he would be wanting more. I'm sure the craving came back sooner for him but he was doing his best not to bother me with it.
For women, understanding this craving can help you motivate your husband and also keep him from getting frustrated or from seeking relief to that craving through pornography and self gratification. Some men have such a deep and constant craving, that it is difficult to quench. I know many of the readers of my posts fit that category and if you are one of these men, my advice to you is that you need to better manage that craving or you will never be happy. I will write more about that in another post.
First, let's focus on the woman's role in managing the craving. I want to make it clear that the wife is the one in charge. In a WLM it is not her duty to cater to the husbands kinky desires. Having said that, one must also recognize that indulging in his desires is a sure way to motivate him to serve you. His brain is wired to crave submission and if you ingore that you are only going to create frustration and unhappiness, which is not what you want. On the other hand if you embrace his submission and recognize that you need to stoke that submission regularly to keep him motivated, you will end up with a very loyal and obedient husband.
The most effective thing you can do is create a structured enviroment in you daily life that results in a continuous submissive/dominant dynamic. This is done through creating many rules and expectations that he must follow, having regular rituals and routines, and having regular discipline or feedback sessions. The rules and expecations must be clearly defined with high expectations and consequences for disobedience and unsatisfactory performance. For example, a rule could be that bathrooms must be cleaned every Saturday. Cleaning includes cleaning toilet, sink, and tub, sweeping/mopping the floor, and wiping down the walls and mirrors. Notice that the expectations are very clear of what needs to be done and a deadline is given. When you have many rules like this, it creates a structured environment that appeals to the submissive mindset.
Rituals and routines have an emotional impact on him, which is a big part of the submissive dynamic. They are also helpful in keeping the WLM on track. It is easy for the wife to get caught up in day-to-day activties and not stoke his submission for days or weeks. Most women do not crave control in the same way a man craves submission and so we can go weeks without formally exerting control and think nothing of it. Men on the other hand, are desperate to feel controlled and desire it every day. A few days without control can make them feel neglected. Rituals an routines help prevent that from happening
I have written about incorporating rules, rituals and routines into WLM in many of my past posts. I encourage you to read them to learn more. I also use fantasy days, boot camp training, and power trips as fun ways to tap into his submission. Are you intrigued by my descriptions? 😀 I had fun coming up with those. I will write about them and also how men need to manage their cravings in my next few posts.
In the meantime, guys feel free to share your thoughts on the submissive craving so that the woman readers can get a better understanding of what I am talking about.
-Kaylee
I'm sure most of you can relate to the experience I described above. That is similar to what submissive men experience with the need to be dominated and controlled and the desire to feel submissive or owned. The challenge with men is that their submissive craving is frequent. Usually with a craving, once you get what you want, the craving dissipates and it may be a long time before that craving comes back. However, the submissive craving does just the opposite. The more submission is experienced, the more he begins to crave it. It can become an addiction. When you add in the constant arousal experienced by men who are denied orgasm over prolonged periods of time, the craving becomes even stronger.
The submissive craving is a constant desire to feel controlled and to be dominated. This includes desires such as being punished, spanked, or reprimanded; being talked to in a authoratative manner; being forced to do tasks, submissive or humiliating things; kneeling before his wife; worshipping his wife's body, being teased and denied orgasm; and kissing her feet. Early in my WLM I thought that a night of kinky or fantasy fun would satisfy my husbands submissive desires for awhile but I soon learned I was wrong. It would only be a week or two later that he would be wanting more. I'm sure the craving came back sooner for him but he was doing his best not to bother me with it.
For women, understanding this craving can help you motivate your husband and also keep him from getting frustrated or from seeking relief to that craving through pornography and self gratification. Some men have such a deep and constant craving, that it is difficult to quench. I know many of the readers of my posts fit that category and if you are one of these men, my advice to you is that you need to better manage that craving or you will never be happy. I will write more about that in another post.
First, let's focus on the woman's role in managing the craving. I want to make it clear that the wife is the one in charge. In a WLM it is not her duty to cater to the husbands kinky desires. Having said that, one must also recognize that indulging in his desires is a sure way to motivate him to serve you. His brain is wired to crave submission and if you ingore that you are only going to create frustration and unhappiness, which is not what you want. On the other hand if you embrace his submission and recognize that you need to stoke that submission regularly to keep him motivated, you will end up with a very loyal and obedient husband.
The most effective thing you can do is create a structured enviroment in you daily life that results in a continuous submissive/dominant dynamic. This is done through creating many rules and expectations that he must follow, having regular rituals and routines, and having regular discipline or feedback sessions. The rules and expecations must be clearly defined with high expectations and consequences for disobedience and unsatisfactory performance. For example, a rule could be that bathrooms must be cleaned every Saturday. Cleaning includes cleaning toilet, sink, and tub, sweeping/mopping the floor, and wiping down the walls and mirrors. Notice that the expectations are very clear of what needs to be done and a deadline is given. When you have many rules like this, it creates a structured environment that appeals to the submissive mindset.
Rituals and routines have an emotional impact on him, which is a big part of the submissive dynamic. They are also helpful in keeping the WLM on track. It is easy for the wife to get caught up in day-to-day activties and not stoke his submission for days or weeks. Most women do not crave control in the same way a man craves submission and so we can go weeks without formally exerting control and think nothing of it. Men on the other hand, are desperate to feel controlled and desire it every day. A few days without control can make them feel neglected. Rituals an routines help prevent that from happening
I have written about incorporating rules, rituals and routines into WLM in many of my past posts. I encourage you to read them to learn more. I also use fantasy days, boot camp training, and power trips as fun ways to tap into his submission. Are you intrigued by my descriptions? 😀 I had fun coming up with those. I will write about them and also how men need to manage their cravings in my next few posts.
In the meantime, guys feel free to share your thoughts on the submissive craving so that the woman readers can get a better understanding of what I am talking about.
-Kaylee
Thursday, June 27, 2019
Corner Time
Earlier this year I started using corner time as a punishment with Thomas. I'm finding that there are many benefits to corner time. What I like the most is how easy it is to administer. I simply send him to the corner and he goes. While he's in the corner, I can watch TV, read a book, or go about my usual business in the house. I could even leave him alone for corner time but then I run the risk of him taking a more relaxed position and not feeling the full effects of the punishment. Also, I think my presence during his corner time adds a bit of embarrassment for him and makes him feel more submissive. I also think he looks cute kneeling still in the corner :)
Another benefit of corner time is that it can be used for many situations. There are many variations of how you can use corner time, which means it can range from a mild punishment all the way up to a severe punishment. A mild punishment would be having your husband kneel or stand in the corner for a short amount of time. A longer amount of time increases the un-comfort, making it a more severe punishment. Other ways to increase the severity of the punishment is to require him to keep his nose pressed against the wall or have him hold a coin or piece of paper against the wall with his nose You could even have him hold his arms out while standing.
I read a post where a woman had her husband hold a dildo against the wall with his mouth. I thought that was a creative and fun idea that adds a bit of humiliation to the punishment. Little things like that create a deeper feeling of submission in men, which help to elevate your authority and power. The act of being sent to the corner in itself is embarrassing for men as they are being treated like a child. This clearly demonstrates a superior/submissive relationship similar to a mother-child and I think that dynamic is another wonderful benefit of corner time.
I also like corner time because it is a quiet punishment. I don't spank Thomas anymore because I have teenage kids and I do not need to be explaining to them why they are hearing loud slaps in our bedroom :). Instead I close the door and send Thomas to the corner. If the kids come knocking, then he grabs his robe. So far that's not been a problem. Because corner time is so discreet, you could even do it while away or if others are in the house. I've teased with my husband that if he acts up when we are with friends, I'll send him to the corner while they are in the house. If at someone else's house, I'll make him strip naked and stand in the bathtub. I don't know if I'd truly to that but it is fun to tease him about it and it certainly keeps him on his best behavior.
Corner time is also a good add-on to a spanking or other punishment. After a spanking, the husband could be sent to the corner or he could be spanked while standing in the corner. So far I've only used it as a mild punishment. I'd almost consider my use of it as a combination of punishment and discipline. A constant struggle with Thomas is putting dishes and laundry away in the right spots as well as paying attention to some of the small details when I give him tasks to do. I started to use corner time as a way to punish him for his lack of focus and to motivate him to do better. For every item I find in the wrong spot, he gets 5 minutes of corner time. I find that less then 10 minutes it too easy for him, so he gets a minimum of 10 minutes in the corner. He knows to strip naked and kneel in the corner when I send him to the corner. Sometimes I will order him to wear his punishment panties or I may have him stand in the corner and lower his panties to mid-thigh or at his ankles and he must not drop them or his time in the corner is extended.
Since I implemented corner time I have noticed that he pays more attention when he puts things away and tries to remember where some of the less frequently used items go (those are the ones that often give him problems). His corner time has become less frequent, which is a great thing! It really is an easy and effective punishment. If you are not comfortable with spanking, corner time is a great alternative.
-Mz Kaylee
Tuesday, May 28, 2019
Getting Started in a FLR (by Debbie)
Below is a guest post from Debbie with advice on how to get started in a FLR. I read through it and think her advice provides great guidelines for moving forward in a FLR. Thanks Debbie for your contribution. -Mz Kaylee
Many women ask how to get started in an FLR, especially when they see how obedient and loving David is to me and to women he encounters at home and in work. Many men crave having a woman in charge but are afraid to raise the issue. Women often sense a man's submissive inclinations but fail to seize the opportunity to take control. How does one put the wheels in motion? Well, in every situation we've encountered it's the woman who recognizes her submissive husband's desires and takes charge. A woman friend, Diane, seeing how well David behaved and told me she wished her Jim would be better behaved. Sensing that Jim had submissive tendencies, I told her that all she had to do was assert herself and I could almost guarantee that she and Jim would be on the path to an FLR, Based on my experience with other couples and with my David I gave her some advice and even had David come in and attest to his complete satisfaction with my being in absolute control.
Girls, start small and as he acclimates to your authority accelerate the pace of your control. In our case David, like most men, is excited at the prospect of my having control. I was excited when David told me he wanted structure and routine in the relationship and I was only too happy to oblige him! I immediately started putting a set of rules in place. What kind of rules? Well consider the following:
1) Obedience - David recognizes that I am in charge and have ultimate authority. I may, MAY! consider his opinion but I am the ultimate authority and will make all decisions if I so choose. I give orders; I don't make suggestions or give choices. I order, he obeys!
2) Deference - David shows women respect and deference, not only at home or with relatives or friends but outside the home, too, in public and at work. It's “Yes, Ma'am” or “No, Ma'am”, NEVER “Yeah” or “No”. Women are to be addressed a “Madame” - We don't use 'Mistress' since I consider that to be the stuff of male fantasies and not conducive of an FLR. His deference extends to my family and girlfriends. He learned how each woman wanted to be addressed and complies with their wishes. My sister is Ms. Charon and my girlfriend, Paula, is Ms. Paula. Madam is always appropriate, for example, Madame Paula.
3) Housework - David was put on notice that he would eventually be doing ALL the housework, wash, iron, clean, vacuum, look after my wardrobe, and so on, Women have to invest some time instructing their man on how to do housework but it's a good investment on their part. David, as are most submissive men, was a quick learner and in short order he had a regular routine of housework that he loved. It took surprisingly little time before he was not only doing housework but doing it to my complete satisfaction! As he mastered household tasks I added more, a prospect that excited him. I don't do housework any more; my submissive hubby does it all! YES, ALL of it. He has a set routine of work every day of the week that includes serving me, my family, and my woman friends. I allow David some free time every day but ONLY if his housework is done. You can imagine what his doing housework does for me; I can relax, read, watch TV, go out with my girlfriends, or date - yes, I date. I decided to start dating when one of the guys in the office started asking me out - David has no say in the matter.
4) Finances - I advise women contemplating an FLR to quickly take control of the couple's finances; doing so will solidify your absolute control! More on this later in a post that I will dedicate to this important aspect of an FLR.
5) Discipline. Women should accept the fact that, from time-to-time, they will have to discipline their husbands. Women do themselves AND their husbands a favor when they administer discipline, but more on this in a future post.
6) His friends and leisure activities - Women should be in absolute control of her man's hobbies, friends, and outside activities. Women are sometime reluctant to exert control but her doing so is beneficial to the FLR. You don't want hubby going out with 'the boys' and having bad patriarchal attitudes undoing the rules and routines you've spent so much time putting in place. Again, more in a future post.
His reward? Know he is pleasing me and living a rich, submissive lifestyle. You'll be amazed at all you can accomplish in a short time.
Debbie
Wednesday, May 22, 2019
The Magic of Panties
Men are fascinated with our panties. There is something magical about panties when it comes to men. From young boys all the way up to old men, a simple glimpse of a woman's panties stirs their arousal and can set off fantasies. How many men have been caught stealing panties? Just for fun I googled it and there were pages of news stories about men caught stealing and sniffing panties. There certainly is no shortage of "upskirt" pictures on the web. It seems that men are dying to see, feel, and yes, even sniff our panties.
A sexy pair of panties in the bedroom can drive a man wild. My husband's eyes are always glued to me when I walk around in panties and bra but there are a few pairs that really grab his attention. His favorites are the shiny silk or satin panties and panties with lacy bottoms. The right pair of panties will most definitely increase your sex appeal and draw your man's attention to you.
Knowing that men are drawn to panties...what is a woman to do with that power? There are many fun things you can do to tap into this fascination that men have with panties.
Stroke his cock with panties
Wrapping a soft or silky pair of panties around his cock and stroking away will certainly elevate his arousal. The magic of panties makes the teasing so much more exciting for him. Having him finish in them is an extra treat for him but be sure to make him hand wash them to clean up his mess. What really drives my husband crazy is when I lightly drag them across his balls and cock over and over again. It's fun to watch his cock twitch as I tease him with the soft fabric.
Condition him to respond to panties
I get a thrill out of conditioning my husband to naturally respond to things; like the Pavlov's dog effect.For example, I've conditioned my husband to get aroused when he comes to give me a foot massage. An idea to try with panties is to only allow him to cum when he's being stroked with panties and use the same pair of panties each time you are going to allow him to cum. Now you can be direct with him and let him know that he will only be allowed to cum when being stroked by those panties but I think it's more fun to let him figure it out on his own. After cumming into panties a few times, he's sure to associate the panties with an orgasm for him. Once that connection is made, let the fun begin! Try leaving the panties lying around in the open and quietly watch his behavior. I bet his eyes drift to them several times. He may even comment on them, hoping that an orgasm is on its way. Another thing you can do is to secretly give them to him when you are out in public and say something like "Don't lose these. We are going to need them for later." It's sure to drive him wild.
Secret panty exchange
That is a good lead into the next idea: Have you ever heard of anyone who slipped off their panties in public and secretly handed them to their boyfriend. I knew a girl who did this in college at a banquet. It may have been done secretly but but by the end of the night the guys in the room knew about it and were envious. To the guys, there was something exciting, naughty, and sexy about what transpired. Her boyfriend followed her around like a puppy dog the rest of the night. He could not wait to go him with her. Oh the things kids do! Why not be a kid again, and give the secret panty exchange a try.
Make him sniff your panties
Next let's talk about our panty sniffing men. My guess is that pretty much encompasses every man. Yes, ladies, as disgusting as it may sound, men want to smell our panties. You can bet that your husband has probably secretly sniffed yours at some point. A pair of used panties is like gold to them. Men even pay women to send them their used panties. It brings out the animal in men. The scent of our sex and knowing that the delicate fabric was rubbing our most private area is enough to drive them wild. Now that you know this, it's time to have fun with it. Slide your panties over his head and order him to inhale your scent. There are two scenes you can play out here to tap into his submissive mind. One is to tease that he is a dirty, naughty boy for wanting to sniff your panties and getting excited by it. You can tease at how your sex makes him weak and the more he breathes in your scent, the weaker he becomes and the more he falls under you control He will love it! You may even decide to punish (playfully) him for being so naughty.
The other approach, which I like the most, is to view his sniffing habit as a form of worship. He is worshipping you and your feminine power through inhaling your sexual scent. The more he inhales the deeper his devotion to you becomes and the more he falls under your power. I can toss a pair of my panties to my husband and order him to worship them and he knows what to do. There is strong symbolism at work here, which will take him into deep submission. There are many ways you can incorporate panty sniffing into your relationship. During sexual play you can order him to sniff or you can place them over his head yourself. He can wear them over his head in just about any situation including kneeling before you, during a punishment, while you tease him, or while sleeping. Sometimes when my husband goes on an overnight business trip, I will slip a pair of my used panties into his suitcase as a treat with a note ordering him to worship daily. If you have any rituals, panty sniffing can be incorporated into the ritual. If you have never forced your husband to worship your panties, you must give it a try! No matter how crazy it sounds, this is one of those things that drive all men wild, even if they are not submissive. You will surely have him under your spell.
Gag him!
Something else you can do is gag him with your panties. Push them into his mouth and order him to keep quiet. This can be done while you tease him, as part of a punishment or simply when you want him to be quiet. Again, the symbolism hear is strong. Having your used panties with the scent of your sex on them, shoved into his mouth can be quite a power trip and push him deep into submission.
Have him hand wash your panties
When it comes to his panties, he always has to hand wash them. No boy panties are allowed in my laundry; house rules. From time-to-time I will require him to hand wash my panties. I see this as another from of worship. I like to make it a daily ritual. I will either drop my panties on the floor and he has to fetch them before he goes to bed or I will make him pull them off me. He must hand wash them before he goes to bed and hang them to dry. A few times, instead of the daily routine, I've ordered him to dig through the dirty laundry and pull out all my panties and hand wash them. I like doing this after I've teased and denied him so he's nice and horny while he does it.
Make him wear panties
Finally, the last idea I'd like to mention about panties is to force him into a pair. This is where there is real magic for many men. I've seen it with my husband. Every time he slips on a pair for me, he gets a small erection. All I have to do is tell him how cute he looks in them and his erections grows. When he wears panties he becomes quiet and docile. It's amazing the effect it has on him. I can not explain it. You can make him wear them in the bedroom just for fun or you can have him wear them under his clothes during the day. I have a special pair he has to where whenever he is punished. I will make him wear them for several days after the punishment. the idea that this is something you can do on occasion for fun or something that can be required on a daily basis. With Thomas I started out just doing it occasionally but once I started realizing the effect they had on him, his panty wearing became more frequent. Let's just say now he spend much more time in panties during the year then in his boring boy underwear.
I've written a post about putting your man in panties so I will not go into the details here. I'll just leave you with a few tips:
To my fellow Goddesses, be sure to use the magic of panties to seduce and control your husband. Spend more time in them in front of him. If you are feeling adventurous give one of the ideas above a try. I think you will be pleasantly surprised at the results. Please share your experiences with this.
Mz Kaylee
A sexy pair of panties in the bedroom can drive a man wild. My husband's eyes are always glued to me when I walk around in panties and bra but there are a few pairs that really grab his attention. His favorites are the shiny silk or satin panties and panties with lacy bottoms. The right pair of panties will most definitely increase your sex appeal and draw your man's attention to you.
Knowing that men are drawn to panties...what is a woman to do with that power? There are many fun things you can do to tap into this fascination that men have with panties.
Stroke his cock with panties
Wrapping a soft or silky pair of panties around his cock and stroking away will certainly elevate his arousal. The magic of panties makes the teasing so much more exciting for him. Having him finish in them is an extra treat for him but be sure to make him hand wash them to clean up his mess. What really drives my husband crazy is when I lightly drag them across his balls and cock over and over again. It's fun to watch his cock twitch as I tease him with the soft fabric.
Condition him to respond to panties
I get a thrill out of conditioning my husband to naturally respond to things; like the Pavlov's dog effect.For example, I've conditioned my husband to get aroused when he comes to give me a foot massage. An idea to try with panties is to only allow him to cum when he's being stroked with panties and use the same pair of panties each time you are going to allow him to cum. Now you can be direct with him and let him know that he will only be allowed to cum when being stroked by those panties but I think it's more fun to let him figure it out on his own. After cumming into panties a few times, he's sure to associate the panties with an orgasm for him. Once that connection is made, let the fun begin! Try leaving the panties lying around in the open and quietly watch his behavior. I bet his eyes drift to them several times. He may even comment on them, hoping that an orgasm is on its way. Another thing you can do is to secretly give them to him when you are out in public and say something like "Don't lose these. We are going to need them for later." It's sure to drive him wild.
Secret panty exchange
That is a good lead into the next idea: Have you ever heard of anyone who slipped off their panties in public and secretly handed them to their boyfriend. I knew a girl who did this in college at a banquet. It may have been done secretly but but by the end of the night the guys in the room knew about it and were envious. To the guys, there was something exciting, naughty, and sexy about what transpired. Her boyfriend followed her around like a puppy dog the rest of the night. He could not wait to go him with her. Oh the things kids do! Why not be a kid again, and give the secret panty exchange a try.
Make him sniff your panties
Next let's talk about our panty sniffing men. My guess is that pretty much encompasses every man. Yes, ladies, as disgusting as it may sound, men want to smell our panties. You can bet that your husband has probably secretly sniffed yours at some point. A pair of used panties is like gold to them. Men even pay women to send them their used panties. It brings out the animal in men. The scent of our sex and knowing that the delicate fabric was rubbing our most private area is enough to drive them wild. Now that you know this, it's time to have fun with it. Slide your panties over his head and order him to inhale your scent. There are two scenes you can play out here to tap into his submissive mind. One is to tease that he is a dirty, naughty boy for wanting to sniff your panties and getting excited by it. You can tease at how your sex makes him weak and the more he breathes in your scent, the weaker he becomes and the more he falls under you control He will love it! You may even decide to punish (playfully) him for being so naughty.
The other approach, which I like the most, is to view his sniffing habit as a form of worship. He is worshipping you and your feminine power through inhaling your sexual scent. The more he inhales the deeper his devotion to you becomes and the more he falls under your power. I can toss a pair of my panties to my husband and order him to worship them and he knows what to do. There is strong symbolism at work here, which will take him into deep submission. There are many ways you can incorporate panty sniffing into your relationship. During sexual play you can order him to sniff or you can place them over his head yourself. He can wear them over his head in just about any situation including kneeling before you, during a punishment, while you tease him, or while sleeping. Sometimes when my husband goes on an overnight business trip, I will slip a pair of my used panties into his suitcase as a treat with a note ordering him to worship daily. If you have any rituals, panty sniffing can be incorporated into the ritual. If you have never forced your husband to worship your panties, you must give it a try! No matter how crazy it sounds, this is one of those things that drive all men wild, even if they are not submissive. You will surely have him under your spell.
Gag him!
Something else you can do is gag him with your panties. Push them into his mouth and order him to keep quiet. This can be done while you tease him, as part of a punishment or simply when you want him to be quiet. Again, the symbolism hear is strong. Having your used panties with the scent of your sex on them, shoved into his mouth can be quite a power trip and push him deep into submission.
Have him hand wash your panties
When it comes to his panties, he always has to hand wash them. No boy panties are allowed in my laundry; house rules. From time-to-time I will require him to hand wash my panties. I see this as another from of worship. I like to make it a daily ritual. I will either drop my panties on the floor and he has to fetch them before he goes to bed or I will make him pull them off me. He must hand wash them before he goes to bed and hang them to dry. A few times, instead of the daily routine, I've ordered him to dig through the dirty laundry and pull out all my panties and hand wash them. I like doing this after I've teased and denied him so he's nice and horny while he does it.
Make him wear panties
Finally, the last idea I'd like to mention about panties is to force him into a pair. This is where there is real magic for many men. I've seen it with my husband. Every time he slips on a pair for me, he gets a small erection. All I have to do is tell him how cute he looks in them and his erections grows. When he wears panties he becomes quiet and docile. It's amazing the effect it has on him. I can not explain it. You can make him wear them in the bedroom just for fun or you can have him wear them under his clothes during the day. I have a special pair he has to where whenever he is punished. I will make him wear them for several days after the punishment. the idea that this is something you can do on occasion for fun or something that can be required on a daily basis. With Thomas I started out just doing it occasionally but once I started realizing the effect they had on him, his panty wearing became more frequent. Let's just say now he spend much more time in panties during the year then in his boring boy underwear.
I've written a post about putting your man in panties so I will not go into the details here. I'll just leave you with a few tips:
- The more pretty and feminine the panties the better. A nice silk bow on the back is a nice touch. As the girly factor goes up, it squashes his mail ego more and pushes him deeper into submission. Thomas has a much sexier collection of panties than I do.
- Thongs are great for punishments because his ass is exposed and so you can spank him while he wears them. The string up his ass is also a great reminder during the day that he is being punished and needs to improve his behavior
- If you are going to have him in panties on a regular basis, be sure to get him many different styles that hug his body in different ways. This keeps him from getting used to a particular pair. If he gets too used to a pair, the effect of panties wears off. During the winter, mix in a pair of panty hose just for fun. The tightness all over his feet and legs will certainly have an effect on him.
To my fellow Goddesses, be sure to use the magic of panties to seduce and control your husband. Spend more time in them in front of him. If you are feeling adventurous give one of the ideas above a try. I think you will be pleasantly surprised at the results. Please share your experiences with this.
Mz Kaylee
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